Bat Mitzvah FAQ’s
If you’ve never been to a Bat Mitzvah before (and even if you have), here are answers to some of the questions you may have.
What is a Bat Mitzvah?
A Bat Mitzvah is not something you have or something you do; it is something you become. “Bat Mitzvah” literally means “daughter of the commandments” or “daughter of responsibility.” This special day marks a young woman’s transition into spiritual adulthood within the Jewish community. It is usually done on or around the young woman’s 13th birthday.
What happens at the service in the morning?
On the day of the Bat Mitzvah, the student leads the congregation in prayer and teaches the community about that week’s Torah portion and its meaning. Over the last several years, Sophia has dedicated a great deal of time studying and learning Hebrew, the Torah, and Jewish history and traditions in preparation for this special occasion. Please note: It is customary to attend the morning service in addition to the evening celebration. We hope everyone: family, friends, and fellow classmates, will join us Saturday morning as Sophia marks this milestone in her life!
How long is the Bat Mitzvah service?
It varies from week to week, but it usually lasts from 10am until 12:30pm or so. We will be hosting a Kiddush Lunch in the synagogue after the service concludes.
Can I or my child use their cell phone during the synagogue service?
No. It is customary not to use personal electronic devices at the synagogue, unless there is an emergency. If you need to text your child to pick them up, please do so after 12:30pm so as to not interrupt the service.
What is a Kippah/Yarmulke?
It is a small hat or head covering. Traditionally it is worn as a way to honor G-d.
During the service, men usually wear a kippah, while women are welcome to wear a kippah, lace head covering or neither. Please do what is comfortable for you.
What is a Tallis/Tallit?
A tallit is a fringed shawl traditionally worn by Jewish adults at prayer. Sophia will be wearing one during the service as she is becoming a Bat-Mitzvah.
What Should I Wear?
It will make us happy for you to wear whatever makes you feel comfortable!
If you are looking for a little more guidance, see below.
Friday Night Dinner & Sunday Brunch
Super casual! A sundress, jeans, shorts, slacks, sandals, t-shirts. If it is hot, consider bringing a bathing suit and towel. Please note we will be on a patio outside next to a sandy beach.
Saturday Morning Service
At our synagogue, simple and respectful attire is appropriate. Options include:
- A dress, skirt, or pants with a top.
- A suit, slacks with a dress shirt, or khakis with a polo shirt.
- Sport coats are optional, and ties are not required. Sneakers are welcome.
Saturday Evening Celebration Attire:
The dress code is festive! Expect dancing, cocktails, and lawn games. Feel free to wear:
- A cocktail dress, midi or maxi dress, pantsuit, or jumpsuit.
- Slacks with a dress shirt or khakis with a polo shirt.
- Sport coats are optional, and sneakers are welcome. Whatever suits your feet!
What time should I drop off/pick up my child?
Service/Lunch – You are welcome to join your child for the service and lunch. However, if you prefer to drop-off/pick up your child, we ask that you drop them off at 9:45 am and pick them up after lunch between 1pm and 1:30pm.
Evening Celebration – Please make arrangements to drop your child off at 4:30pm and pick them up at 10 pm. Please note that the Ohana Family Lodge has very poor to non-existent cell reception.
How to reach us
Feel free to email us at silveramanda@gmail.com, horowitz.jh1@gmail.com, or text or call us to ask us questions.
We look forward to having you join us for this weekend honoring Sophia!